When guys yell “compliments at passing women from the safety of their balconies, construction cranes, or fire escapes, telling them how “hot” they are, that they should “smile more”, and so one, seem to not be aware how dangerous this is for the women.
Why? Because this.
Me: *walking down street*
Dude: you’re cute
Me: *walks*
Dude: very cute
Me: *walks more*
Dude: fucking bitch, don’t let it go to your head— Anne Thériault (@anne_theriault) May 13, 2016
Trust us. Catcalling is just seconds away from verbal harassment. To what might turn into physical harassment. Even yes, rape.
Why don’t we think harassment is a compliment? Because we know “fucking bitch” is on the tip of your tongue. https://t.co/2ZPMTlfFH8
— Kate Harding (@KateHarding) May 13, 2016
This issue inspired Elon James White, CEO of This Week in Blackness to ask the question: so if this whole catcalling thing is just men giving compliments, why don’t they do it to other men?
Im so confused as to why dudes are complaining about not being able to say hi to women. Go say hi to other dudes if you need to so bad.
— Elon James White (@elonjames) October 29, 2014
Because Elon knows what’s really going on behind that “Hey babe! So pretty! Smile for me!”
“I’m just saying. I’m a nice guy. I just want to say HI. And you’re going to accept this greeting whether you fucking like it or not.”
— Elon James White (@elonjames) November 2, 2014
Elon started the #DudesGreetingDudes Movement to shed light on the hypocrisy.
Dudes. If you feel society has lost it’s decency, let’s bring it back. Let’s start the #DudesGreetingDudes movement! Say hi to each other!
— Elon James White (@elonjames) November 2, 2014
These women don’t get it. Y’all just want to say hi. What’s wrong with hi?!?! So let’s just leave them out completely. #DudesGreetingDudes
— Elon James White (@elonjames) November 2, 2014
Elon White explains: “A woman was just killed for not accepting a man’s advances, but we’re going to pretend that our right to engage women unsolicited outweighs their right to feel safe? No.”
You see a dude in a nice suit, just roll up on him like “Damn. You wearing that suit. Hmm Hmm!” #DudesGreetingDudes
— Elon James White (@elonjames) November 2, 2014
You see a dude looking all hard & shit. Roll up on him like “Aye yo, smile, son. Damn.” BRING SUNSHINE TO HIS DAY. #dudesgreetingdudes
— Elon James White (@elonjames) November 2, 2014
So, what would it sound like if catcalling men talked to other men the way they did to women?
“Ayy bro, sick tank! You’re looking mad swole today. How much do you bench? What, ‘go away’? Why you gotta be that way?” #DudesGreetingDudes
— Joseph Barone (@JosephBarone) November 5, 2014
“Listen, my boys and I watched you when you came out of the train. Your kicks is bangin’ son. Can i give you my number?” #DudesGreetingDudes
— Elon James White (@elonjames) November 2, 2014
Hey bruh! You like football? Wanna watch football? You look like you played football! Where’d you play? What position? #DudesGreetingDudes
— Blackish Panther (@TheCoolTeacher_) November 2, 2014
“The right to approach women at any point in time no matter where they are is seen as a right by some men,” White elaborates. “And some of these dudes lack the most basic form of empathy to understand that our desire or intent doesn’t negate what that woman might be going through. Walking to the grocery store or to go pick up your kid shouldn’t be a gauntlet that you have to gear up for.”
“Damnnnn bruh you WEARING that Bluetooth” #DudesGreetingDudes
— Vann R. Newkirk II (@fivefifths) November 5, 2014
(sees dude reading a book) “Whatcha reading bro? You like books? I love smart dudes. Get that brain on, bud. Aw yeah.” #dudesgreetingdudes
— Kat Letwin (@letwinka) November 2, 2014
“Dude, smile. You look more manly when you smile.” #DudesGreetingDudes
— Ken Simon (@KenSimonSays) November 2, 2014
And it’s not just about catcalling per se, too.
Damn dude, your guns are on point. Why wear that shirt if you didn’t want the attention. #dudesgreetingdudes
— Ryan Byrne (@ryanbyrneman) November 2, 2014
“You look so exotic, bro. Can I touch your hair?” #DudesGreetingDudes
— Memento Maury Povich (@middleclasstool) November 5, 2014
*Grabs a dudes arm as he walks pass*
“Hold up why you moving so fast?…You in a hurry? Slow down Bruh”#DudesGreetingDudes
— Future Super-Villain (@IntergalacticQ) November 2, 2014
What about when the attention is unwanted?
“You can’t even take a compliment bro? Fine, you look fat anyway!” #DudesGreetingDudes
— Tyrone (@tyronem) November 2, 2014
“Hey bro can I get your number? What? It’s just to play golf! What the hell! Loser.” #DudesGreetingDudes
— SunshineInYourPocket (@esposa_de_oliva) November 2, 2014
Feel any better? Welcome to what women have to face every day. Catcalling needs to stop.
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