When you’re newlyweds, everything is happy, sparkly, bubbly champagne splendor in the warm dewy sunshine, and there ain’t anything anyone can do to put a damper on your happiness. And hey, why should they even? It’s your special day, and you’re in a special phase in your life. Live it up, sweet summer children, because getting hitched is one of the biggest decisions anyone is ever going to face in their lives.
A number of newlyweds, though, are starting to discover marriage isn’t all hearts and roses. When the cake’s been cut, the champagne’s drunk, and the flowers and confetti all put away, what comes next? These couples now face the reality of building their lives together from the ground up.
Sometimes it’s surprising. sometimes it’s poignant. Sometimes it’s heart-breaking. Just take a peep at these Whisper secrets from newlyweds.
If there’s two things that seem to unite these secrets, it’s fear and regret.
Hang on to your feelings. Things are about to get real. Like really sad.
Some folks say sex is the first thing to go. Not this soon.
and sometimes it’ll feel as if all that passion has just gone and burned out.
And some couples start thinking how different and how simple life was like back in Mom and Dad’s house.
And some people miss the single life.
and then there’s the topic of children — who wants kids, when to have kids, and so on. Sometimes, both parties don’t want them at the same time…
And sometimes, that desire to have kids can change. Even vanish.
Sometimes, having children may not be the priority, but you sometimes have that delicate, wavering question of “what if?”.
And then there’s the tough questions. The important questions. The kind of questions couples need to sit down and talk about and lay their cards on the table and be honest about hat they want in life and what direction they’ll be taking and if it works for the both of them.
There are some who feel it’s already at the tipping point.
And some to whom the truth happened to them at a bad time.
All in all, these newlyweds find themselves asking if they’d made the right decision.
While these may certainly be depressing and leave you hopeless, it’s important to note that that these questions and concerns are certainly valid. They may be truths; they may be growing pains.
Allow us to offer you, dear reader, a quote from Corelli’s Mandolin, by Louis de Bernières:
“Love is a temporary madness, it erupts like volcanoes and then subsides. And when it subsides, you have to make a decision. You have to work out whether your roots have so entwined together that it is inconceivable that you should ever part. Because this is what love is. Love is not breathlessness, it is not excitement, it is not the promulgation of promises of eternal passion, it is not the desire to mate every second minute of the day, it is not lying awake at night imagining that he is kissing every cranny of your body. No, don’t blush, I am telling you some truths. That is just being “in love”, which any fool can do. Love itself is what is left over when being in love has burned away, and this is both an art and a fortunate accident.”