Facebook cheating is — if you go by what divorce lawyers and burned exes on the web say — rife, with old flames and acquaintances to tempt away partners.
And Facebook cheating isn’t even the start of the internet infidelity panic, as those of us of a certain age will remember all the news “special reports” of the 90s in which decades-long marriages were ended by a rekindled high school fling on AOL in chatrooms.
But where Facebook cheating adds a bit of ease, it seems there is a big downside — one that didn’t exist when you needed a phone book to look up someone you loved and lost. It seems that while Facebook certainly allows for reconnection, what it doesn’t facilitate as well is its eternal achilles heel — privacy.
Aaron Ben-Ze’ev, Professor at the University of Haifa and author of a book called Love Online, explains that the internet and Facebook cheating are indeed a “thing” — saying:
Maintaining a loving committed relationship is harder than before as alternative romantic options are easier to explore and to realize … This increases the feasibility of cheating, as well as the temptation to cheat.
Yahoo did a recent look into Facebook cheating — but the advice given by the site in its expose is not only a bit frighteningly controlling, it’s also neither entirely applicable or geared to a modern and liberated audience.
According to the author — who glosses over the major issues with Facebook cheating or accusations of such, which are the site’s privacy leaks and unpredictable algorithms — the answer to preventing such drama is “sharing passwords” and using Facebook relationship statuses.
Which is fine, if you are crazy, needy, co-dependent or all of those things. Sure, Facebook relationship statuses are a normal and accepted thing, but for those of us who use social media for work and play, often an injudicious choice to invite colleagues and business partners into your personal life. (And what if something happens? Do you want to explain to a client your fiancee ran off with her Crossfit trainer?)
As for sharing passwords to prevent Facebook cheating, it seems any man or woman with any self-worth (ideally) would deny such a request. Love is love, but sometimes you want to vent to your best friend that your love has again been clipping his toenails under the covers on your side of the bed, or she’s only getting frisky with her bra on.
Facebook privacy standards change by the week, it seems — and while Facebook cheating is certainly easy, each newsfeed tweak also makes getting busted a matter of a leaky ticker.
Have you experienced (or been caught) Facebook cheating, either through spying or a Zuckerleak?