While the controversy surrounding Cardi B’s viral video admitting she drugged and robbed men
Cardi B’s Video Admitting Her Crimes
The video might be three years old, but Cardi B’s words have come back to bite her in the ass. During a live Instagram chat with her fans, it seems that someone got under the rapper’s skin by saying she didn’t deserve to be an artist and had everything handed to her. She gets visibly upset in the video, admitting that in order to survive she had to drug and rob the men who took her home for sex.
I had to go strip, I had to go, ‘Oh yeah, you want to f*ck me? Yeah, yeah, yeah, let’s go to this hotel,’ and I drugged n***as up, and I robbed them. That’s what I used to do. Nothing was motherf*cking handed to me.
Cardi B’s Response To The Controversy
Obviously, this didn’t sit well with the public. People began demanding that she receive the same treatment as men like Bill Cosby, R. Kelly, and Harvey Weinstein, but if you listen to the video in its entirety, you’ll understand that Cardi B’s crimes are quite different. Not that I am in any way condoning what she did, but she hardly deserves to be compared to these rapists.
- Cardi B did NOT say at any point that she had sexual relationships with these men after drugging them. In her public response to the video, she clarifies that the men she had sex with were “conscious, willing and aware.”
- Men went to hotel rooms with Cardi B because they were paying her for sex. Weinstein often used hotel rooms to hold “meetings” where he used his position of power in the industry to force them to engage in a sex act.
- Cosby drugged women in order to rape them, while Cardi B drugged men to rob them. Two very different crimes. She was doing what she thought she had to in order to survive while Cosby was just trying to fulfill his sexual urges.
- R. Kelly has been accused of a slew of sex crimes including child pornography and sex with underage girls, none of which are in any way related to Cardi B’s crimes.
- Unlike all of these men, Cardi B immediately addressed the accusations and denied nothing.
Another Video Goes Viral
A second video later went viral where Cardi B talks about getting revenge on men who’ve cheated on her by getting them “twisted” and having a threesome with a “tranny.” What’s so shocking about her words is that the man doesn’t know that the second woman isn’t a biological female until the next morning. While it’s unclear if her words are hypothetical or not, it’s definitely disturbing. It also warrants an investigation into some of her shady activities as it shows where her morals lay.
Inspiring Men To Come Forward
The first Cardi B victim to come forward went into great detail about his night with the rapper several years ago when she was an exotic dancer. His account of the night makes it clear that he was drugged first and woke up the next morning to a used condom that led him to believe the two had sex. Even though he never pressed charges, there’s no doubt that he is accusing Cardi B of rape. What doesn’t make sense is why she would still have sex with the men after drugging them if she could just rob them and leave.
Other accusations against Cardi B have been made including those from the man above who is allegedly only 15 years old as well as this man. The story has led to a wave of men finding the courage to reveal their own sexual assault and rape stories.
Novelist Salman Rushdie recently came forward in an interview saying he was made uncomfortable by the former British Prime Minister Margaret Thatcher. When asked to comment on the accusations being made about Joe Biden he said,
I have a little experience of being sexually violated by a powerful politician. In my case it was Margaret Thatcher. The thing that people don’t know about Margaret Thatcher is that she was very touchy-feely. You’d sit with her, and she’d put her hands all over you. I had this meeting with her, and she was, like, pawing at me, and I thought, ‘I’m being groped by the Prime Minister!’
The other side of the #HimToo movement shows men standing up for themselves after being falsely accused of assault or rape by others. Johnny Depp is one example of this. He recently sued his ex-wife for making false domestic abuse claims for a whopping $50 million.
Even feminists who should know better are giving men a reason to say #HimToo. The woman depicted in the video grabs the crotch of the man holding the microphone, without any clear reason.
The hashtag doesn’t only refer to sexual abuse as men are using it to tell their stories of domestic abuse as well. While men are finding the courage to come forward and share their experiences, not all of them are willing to reveal their identities. Unfortunately, there’s still a stigma that surrounds male victims and they often struggle with this when telling the truth.
Not all #HimToo stories hold merit however:
While Cardi B’s career seems to have survived this scandal (for now), it seems to have resulted in something positive. By coming forward, the rapper’s first victim has created a comfort zone for others with similar stories to share. Whether they’re victims of Cardi B or not, the #HimToo movement is offering a safe platform for men to get things off their chest.